Point Of Change Counselling
promoting change that heals
face-to-face, Skype or telephone appointments available
Someone once said that "healing is not a smooth, steady slide towards wholeness. It is more like a lightning bolt, full of ups and downs, leaps and backslides". Because everyone's experience is unique, there is no formula for recovery from the loss of a loved one, whether it is a close friend, partner, child or family member. However, it is during our grief that we will often encounter well-meaning, but unhelpful advice from others. They may talk about blessings in disguise, or feelings of relief, or of someone having gone to a better place, but when we are grieving, it is not about the one who has gone; it is about us - our pain / guilt / regret and how our future is going to be without them. The good news (if we can say there is any good news in grief) is that it's ok for it to be all about you for a season. However, it can be helpful to be aware of the things that are commonly a part of grief.
These may range from helplessness, fear, emptiness, despair, and pessimism to irritability, anger, guilt, and restlessness. Be aware though, that if others around you are grieving the same loss, they may have less tolerance and capacity to accommodate your emotional changes.
Grief can trigger changes in appetite and eating habits, sleep patterns or sex drive. People in grief often report that they are constantly fatigued and move, think and speak more slowly. Coordination may decline and making errors may increase.
Those in grief commonly report that it is harder to concentrate and remember, to hold hope, to get motivated or to summon up energy.
If you find yourself stuck in your grief or not sure how to respond to it, then seek the support of a counsellor such as those at Point of Change Counselling, who can give you all the time and patience that you need to grieve well.
For help and support with grief and loss, contact Alli at Point Of Change Counselling to make an appointment.