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We all like to think that we are basically "good" people, but there are times when a person or situation pushes our buttons to the extreme and we find ourselves reacting in an inappropriate way. That may be considered "normal" behaviour, since we all experience it occasionally and it is not typical of us. Such responses may occur only when there are additional factors present, such as illness, unusual levels of stress or tiredness, or substances such as drugs or alcohol.
It is very different when these reactions become part of our usual pattern. We can reach the point where we constantly carry high levels of anger or fear inside and the smallest trigger can result in a major explosion. There is a high risk that those closest to us (physically and emotionally) will be the ones damaged by our choices. At this point we are in great danger of entering the cycle of domestic violence.
Sometimes we don't even recognise that this is what is happening: we can feel that as long as we aren't throwing punches or breaking bones, we have not crossed the line. But domestic violence comes in many forms. Stop for a moment and ask yourself if you have ever been on the giving or receiving end of any of the following on a regular basis. These behaviours can be either actual or threatened.
Domestic violence occurs across all age groups and races, both genders and has no respect for educational levels or social background. It is more likely to be seen where there are issues relating to addictions or where mental health issues are present. Women are most likely to be the victims, but there are certainly men who fall into this role as well. Children are frequently caught in the violence between their parents and may be the target when family relationships are under pressure.
The most dangerous myth associated with domestic violence is that things will get better if I don't react and it won't happen again. This is absolutely untrue. If you, or people close to you, are affected by domestic violence, or if you are the person responsible for violence towards others, then take positive action today.
Counselling can support you as you understand the cycle you are caught in and explore ways to break free. At Point of Change Counselling, you will experience a non-judgemental environment designed to help you understand yourself better and to make healthier choices.
For support for victims of domestic violence, contact Alli at Point Of Change Counselling to make an appointment.